Questioning Your Choices

Reflections for Singles, Couples & Friends Are you living with regret? This week’s episode of Sex Marks the Spot, I’m exploring choices that we make in relationships as singles, couples and with friends. I’m feeling a tad tentative to share how I’ve been experiencing this being single at the moment and the surprising lack of […]

Sex Under Lockdown …It’s getting real

Uncertainty and fear are at the core of the COVID crisis.   It’s during these times we focus on relationships the most. Amidst this chronic stress our bodies are producing more cortisol, which can lead to changes in our testosterone and eosterogen levels — impacting our sexual wellbeing.  Changes to lidio, function -potency and lubrication, orgasm […]

Can you be Too Privileged to be distressed?

I’ve been thinking a lot about the construct of privilege and how it impacts sense of self, sex & relationships. As a first generation Filipino American, I felt incredibly fortunate to be raised in an upper-middle class environment, have education paid for, been able to travel the world. My parents came from nothing in the […]

How do you react when triggered? Your Body Knows First!

How do you react when sh*t happens in your relationships?? Whether at work, at home, with friends or family – how do you typically react when triggered? In this video I’m going to chat about how our body reacts to stress when triggered, stemming from how it learned to protect itself early on.  I’ll be discussing […]

Connecting amidst the Corona Virus

This is a stressful, uncertain time we are experiencing amidst the Corona Virus Crisis.  Anxiety feeds on uncertainty and fear.  COVID is offering the perfect feeding ground for anxiety.  If you’re noticing yourself avoiding others or withdrawing, know that these are the most common anxious reactions. How have you been connecting? My reservoir has been pretty full, […]

Interview with Cosmopolitan

Ambivalent about your relationship?  Should you keep trying or call it quits?   Living with this ambivalence is stressful to say the least and toxic to say the worst.  If you’re not sure what to do about your relationship – know that this is common.  The fantasy that all successful relationships should only be blissful at […]

Ep 7. Exploring Tantra with Brian Piergrossi

In this week’s episode I’m delighted to welcome Brian Piergrossi to the show to chat about tantra. Brian and I explore:~ the pathway of tantra~ how to harness our sexual energy for healing and pleasure~ the individual journey of tantra~ parallel vs enmeshed journeys in relationship~ holding space for yourself Brian is coach, mentor, author, […]

Interview with The Lily

Sex after 40.  Exciting, Daunting, Juicy, Dry, Different– these are all adjectives I’ve heard women describe sex across every decade.  As we evolve, our sexuality evolves with it.  But how?   I was delighted to be interviewed by Nneka McGuire to answer questions about sex after 40 from women around the US.  Unfortunately, there’s not enough talk […]

The Epidemic of Loneliness and How to Cope

Are you feeling lonely, even when you’re not alone?  Well, you’re not alone when it comes to loneliness.   Estimates suggest that between 25-60% of older adults experience loneliness, often peaking in 40s and 50s.   In this week’s episode of Sex Marks the Spot, I’m going to be talking about the epidemic of loneliness. Loneliness can […]

Polyamory: Busting Myths & Talking Truths with Franklin Veux Part 2

This week’s episode of Sex Marks the Spot continues my chat with Franklin Veux about polyamory. Franklin has always engaged in polyamorous relationships, is an educator and go to guy when it comes to polyamorous and ethical non-monogamous relationships.  Franklin has been practicing polyamory since before the term existed and launched the leading web resource […]